Two divorcees dating
Two divorcees dating - Online sex
To set the scene: we, this evening’s chorus, are divorced professional mothers (DPMs) who have adjusted, several years in, to life after marriage. Their success no doubt owes a great deal to our largely graduate-level educations and our upper-middle-class income bracket, in which, interestingly, divorce is as rare now as it was in the 1950s.Although none of our exes initially welcomed divorce, in practice we’ve found our joint-custody arrangements to be surprisingly stable.
achieved a goal that social commentators have inveighed against for centuries: economic independence. Not very well, says Mary Eberstadt, author of Adam and Eve After the Pill.Railed The Times of London in 1868, in opposing property rights for married women: “The proposed change would totally destroy the existing relation between husband and wife.” An American letter-writer declared in 1903: And—as Dr. The sexual revolution’s legacy, she maintains, is “the paradox of declining female happiness.” She cites a 2009 study in which two Wharton School professors, using 35 years of General Social Survey data, found that despite educational and employment advances, women were reportedly less happy than they used to be. Into this gloomy landscape, however, strides Liza Mundy, her bold new vision encapsulated in The Richer Sex: How the New Majority of Female Breadwinners Is Transforming Sex, Love, and Family.Instead of being a castrating, unmarriageable harpy, today’s reproductively and economically free female, Mundy asserts, is the trigger for a challenging but exciting new social order.In 2012 America, as she points out, women are better educated than men (women earn the majority of bachelor’s and graduate degrees); an escalating number of single women younger than 30 earn more than their male peers; and nine of the 10 U. job industries with the most projected growth are women-dominated.This last figure has resulted from various societal shifts, ranging from a late-20th-century fall in manufacturing jobs to the rise of such lucrative, almost exclusively female professions as psychotherapy. I don’t, and my last therapist charged a murderous $275 an hour.) In nearly 40 percent of American marriages, the wife earns more than the husband.Data indicate that this power inversion can trigger not just problems with gender identity but a troubling amount of male infidelity (peculiar new trend: women who are financially dependent on their husbands tend to be faithful, while, paradoxically, financially dependent men tend to stray).
One 2010 study showed that when a woman’s contribution to household income tops 60 percent, the couple is more likely to divorce.
But Mundy sunnily believes a bright day will dawn once households with a female primary breadwinner become the new American majority, as data suggest they will.
Just as the workplace will become more feminized (let’s chant the shibboleth together: on-site-child-care-paid-parental-leave-flextime), the home will become more masculinized.
In short: Could the next wave be Adam and Eve snuggling together over a Desert Storm–camouflage Miele vacuum cleaner?
question, join me for a dinner party in Los Angeles.
Have some white sangria and some pesto hummus—they’re from Whole Foods.